We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness.
I suppose I can’t speak for everyone, but I get the idea that perhaps a significant portion of the people I know find themselves feeling lonely often. I feel lonely a lot. I used to think there was something wrong with me when I was feeling lonely. What I have found though, is that loneliness is something EVERY person feels regularly. If someone says they never feel lonely, they are probably lying.
In this world of social media and constant digital connectedness, it makes no sense that people would feel lonely, right? But when was the last time you really felt connected to another person when looking at what they had for dinner, or seeing pictures of the car they bought that you can’t afford (and you suspect they can’t either)? Even writing this blog feels kinda lonely at times. I enjoy writing and sharing this oddballery with you though, so the value is intrinsic for me.
Connection happens face to face, voice to voice, even in a handwritten letter (no, I won’t beat that horse tonight). The act of intentionally making something entirely personal is partly what I believe leads to connection and begins to alleviate loneliness. It is hard to deny that seeing a friend, receiving a phone call or reading a letter is a connecting experience that lifts the spirit. Loneliness is not there. It’s good for the soul.
I don’t want to go on and on… today I wrote a few American Sentences about loneliness. Feel free to comment if they resonate with you, or not.
Blogging is a lonely way to spend your time if no one reads the thing.
Sometimes I wish everyone was my friend so I wouldn’t feel alone.
Junior high was lonely, but then, so is adulthood much of the time.
Loneliness is scarier than a root canal if you want the truth.
Loneliness is the worst way to die if you ask me, but you didn’t.
I suppose that is enough about being alone; let’s get a beer.
Have a great week!