Why is it that we so often have questions bopping around in our heads and yet we fail to ask them?
I’m guilty of this. I will be talking to someone or listening to my wife, a speaker, my boss, a colleague or a friend and I’ll have all these questions come up. I let the questions tumble around in the thinkbox and then I forget them.
Every once in a while, the question is so important to me that my body even reacts. My heart quickens, my palms sweat, the blood thrums in my ears… it’s like a signal from my unconscious self to ask, to speak up. And I ignore it.
It seems that most of the time we don’t ask the questions out of fear. Fear manifests in many ways but I can identify the following three in my experience.
I don’t want to look dumb. I want to appear competent.
I don’t want to feel humiliated. I want to feel worthy.
I don’t want to change. I want to maintain stability.
This week I’ll take a little time to talk about each of these three fears. I invite your questions. Yes, there will be a couple more posts than usual.
See you soon.