On Thursday, August 14, 2014 I posted the following to my Facebook page:
This is my last Facebook post for the foreseeable future.
Toby Winningham will be buying strings for his guitar and I hope he gets a good quality set. Trevor will now need to consult Strava directly to see where and how fast I rode my bike (unless he is with me on the ride). Pete will be copacetic as usual. Wyatt will need to text me to let me know when the book group is happening. Amy and Heather will be able to have a conversation without a buttinsky highjacking the thread. Colin will be married in a couple weeks and will likely not be seen again for several months, at least if he knows what’s good for him. Crystal, John and Steph can continue to be my “most supportive” friends on Instagram (or someone else can step up, that is fine too). Paul will continue to patrol and secure the perimeter of the neighborhood keeping us all safe at night. Michelle will be able to text when cool stuff is happening with Brandon and Jordan. and the rest of you all will likely do what you have been doing all along.
What I have come to realize is that Facebook, while it is somewhat addictive, does not really promote friendship in the real sense of the word. It promotes a sort of friendly (sometimes) voyeurism that gives us the illusion that we have some sort of status or importance. Honestly though, when I had 1000 Facebook “friends” I still had lots of times that I felt lonely. Facebook doesn’t help that… face to face or mind to mind relationships help that. A handwritten letter in the mail. A chance meeting in the Safeway parking lot, a BBQ in the back yard, a phone call in the evening. Brewing beer on a Saturday. Riding bikes on a Wednesday. Reading a good book with my family around me or watching a movie together. These things add value to my life and I hope to yours when you are participating with me or with others in real time, face to face.
I took the FB app off my phone yesterday. I have probably looked at my phone 20 times since and thought, “why did I get this thing out again?” The phone, partly because of Facebook, has become too important. Track the amount of time you spend on Facebook in a week and then reflect on the value it has added to your life. I did this. I got some good recipes and some nice feelings when people “liked” what I’d posted. I also realized that sometimes that “like” is sort of like saying “I’m fine” when someone asks how you are doing… It is polite and fairly meaningless.
My goal is not to get you to leave Facebook (If it was this would be much better organized, researched and edited). I just wanted to let anyone who is interested know what happened. And really, nothing happened. I’m not mad. I’m not paranoid. I’m not joining a monastic order. I just decided I want to spend my time differently. I would be glad to spend some of that time with any one of you. Coffee, beer, disc golf, bicycling, hiking, book chats, BBQ, fishing, shooting, what have you, I’d love to have you over or meet you or whatever. Let me know.
Twitter – @TimGeoghegan
Instagram – @timgee3
My info page – http://about.me/tim_geoghegan
Blog – http://onesurechord.com/ (this has been my most neglected project of the last year, I hope to bring it back to life in the next month).
I’m also on Voxer and Google+
his is not intended to guilt anyone into calling me or whatever. I’m just going to be living my life without Facebook… See you around!
I was almost convinced to stay when I read this little piece… But alas, I have kept to my principles (or whatever it is I’m keeping to here.) and I am just ready to let it go (cue singing).
I kept my FB page, only to continue to use it for my work, (the school FB page is visited fairly regularly) but I’m not planning on posting anything there or taking a bunch of time to check it. I cut my friends list to about 60. These 60 all remain for reasons related to the difficulty in getting information off Facebook. The link preserves notes, tags, messages, contact info or whatever that I want to be sure to extract before terminating the link. If we are friends and you got your feelings hurt because I “unfriended” you, there are two things I want you to consider. First, I probably already have your mailing address, phone number, e-mail or other pertinent contact info in my contacts database so you are and always have been a REAL friend, don’t sweat it. Second, really consider our friendship, does it depend on a digital pseudo world to exist? Anyone who has been on my Facebook friends list is probably a friend regardless of Facebook. if you feel slighted, I’m not apologizing because Facebook isn’t real. If you think it is, you might consider dumping it as well (and perhaps get some counseling).
So, this site is my new online home. (What better way to force myself to blog?) and I’ll be getting myself organized and focused here. Hope you will follow along and feel free to interact. I’ll post commenting norms and stuff. Basically the rule here is Be Nice. If you want to be a jerk, get your own blog and do it there.