Monthly Archives: August 2014

3 days off FB – This is kinda like quitting (insert your favorite vice here)!

Published / by Tim / 4 Comments on 3 days off FB – This is kinda like quitting (insert your favorite vice here)!

Instead of doing Facebook stuff today I took the family and saw some nature (pictures below).

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I truly am going to get off the subject of leaving FB soon, but I still have observations to share that may prove interesting to someone. Heck, if they are only interesting to me, at least 20 percent of my current follower base will be entertained… ūüôā

First – People say they miss you, but they can’t really explain why. This is a weird phenomenon:

Them: Whoa, you left Facebook!

Me: Yep. It was taking too much time and I wanted to spend my time doing other things.

Them: I TOTALLY miss you on FB…

Me: Really, what do you miss? (I’d¬†be hoping it was something important so I could justify a return.)

Them: You know… you unfriended me, and I miss you.

Me: But we are talking right now, like friends talk to each other.

Them: Whoa, that’s true… But I still miss you on FB.

Second – It’s kind of amazing what sorts of rituals we get into when it comes to our digital lives and how we have no idea until we toss a monkey wrench into the works. I would wake up, grab the phone and see how many “likes” i got on the content I had scheduled to post at times convenient to my “friends”. I’d read some of the comments that came in. I’d see who else was on. I’d say “hi”¬†to one or two and have a little good day chit chat, always stopping short of inviting them for a pre-work coffee, because that would just be weird, right? Then I’d read the newest content my “friends” had posted, much of it being memes, photos of cats with silly captions or¬†political rants/raves. ¬†I’d get ready and go to work or do other stuff. Checking FB on my phone approximately 30 times per day. I know, it’s sad.

Third – You can survive without Facebook (Because there is always Google +) Hahaha!!! I’m only sort of kidding… I use Google stuff ALL the time, except for android because it’s lame. I realized that with my Google account, there is a tight link to Google+ which is still a social network for geeks and weirdos who watch Dr. Who (I claim this group as my own, BTW). It is no Facebook and although I have access, I don’t find a desire to check it more than a couple times a week. Google¬†communication apps are cool. Hangouts¬†holds a lot of promise.

Fourth – I have never tried to quit smoking so I’m only guessing here, but I imagine quitting FB is kind of like that, except they don’t make drugs to help. (I am told that there are drugs that could help, but I don’t live in Washington or Colorado). You know how I said I’d check FB 30 times a day? I wasn’t necessarily doing it because I consciously wanted to… it was unconscious until I brought it back to the conscious level with a bit of hard nosed data collection for several days. Granted, I was on vacation so checking it was fairly easy and unobtrusive in my day to day functioning… but it was still a LOT of checking to see silly stuff.

Anyway- I’m still here and 99.9% FB free. I admit I have logged in to FB once to add a post to the School page and I was happy to see that 6 people had liked that I’d left (wait a second…) and another 5 or 6 has left a smarty alecky responses to my declaration of FB independence… (That’s more like it). I hope the people who “liked” that I’m gone were only liking in a solidarity sense… See, it just makes us paranoid!

What do you think? Does FB make our lives better and I’m just not seeing it? Do you ever feel that social media paranoia creeping in? Tell me what you think in the comments…

Facebook … done.

Published / by Tim

On Thursday, August 14, 2014 I posted the following to my Facebook page:


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This is my last Facebook post for the foreseeable future.

Toby Winningham will be buying strings for his guitar and I hope he gets a good quality set. Trevor will now need to consult Strava directly to see where and how fast I rode my bike (unless he is with me on the ride). Pete will be copacetic as usual. Wyatt will need to text me to let me know when the book group is happening. Amy and Heather will be able to have a conversation without a buttinsky highjacking the thread. Colin will be married in a couple¬†weeks and will likely not be seen again for several months, at least if he knows what’s good for him. Crystal, John and Steph can continue to be my “most supportive” friends on Instagram (or someone else can step up, that is fine too). Paul will continue to patrol and secure the ¬†perimeter of the neighborhood keeping us all safe at night. Michelle will be able to text when cool stuff is happening with Brandon and Jordan. and the rest of you all will likely do what you have been doing all along.

What I have come to realize is that Facebook, while it is somewhat addictive, does not really promote friendship in the real sense of the word. It promotes a sort of friendly (sometimes) voyeurism that gives us the illusion that we have some sort of status or importance. Honestly though, when I had 1000 Facebook “friends” I still had lots of times that I felt lonely. Facebook doesn’t help that… face to face or mind to mind relationships help that. A handwritten letter in the mail. A chance meeting in the Safeway parking lot, a BBQ in the back yard, a phone call in the evening. Brewing beer on a Saturday. Riding bikes on a Wednesday. Reading a good book with my family around me or watching a movie together. These things add value to my life and I hope to yours when you are participating with me or with others in real time, face to face.

I took the FB app off my phone yesterday. I have probably looked at my phone 20 times since and thought, “why did I get this thing out again?” The phone, partly because of Facebook, has become too important. Track the amount of time you spend on Facebook in a week and then reflect on the value it has added to your life. I did this. I got some good recipes and some nice feelings when people “liked” what I’d posted. I also realized that sometimes that “like” is sort of like saying “I’m fine” when someone asks how you are doing… It is polite and fairly meaningless.

My goal is not to get you to leave Facebook (If it was this would be much better organized, researched and edited). I just wanted to let anyone who is interested know what happened. And really, nothing happened. I’m not mad. I’m not paranoid. I’m not joining a monastic order. I just decided I want to spend my time differently. I would be glad to spend some of that time with any one of you. Coffee, beer, disc golf, bicycling, hiking, book chats, BBQ, fishing, shooting, what have you, I’d love to have you over or meet you or whatever. Let me know.

Twitter – @TimGeoghegan

Instagram – @timgee3

My info page –¬†http://about.me/tim_geoghegan

Blog –¬†http://onesurechord.com/¬†(this has been my most neglected project of the last year, I hope to bring it back to life in the next month).

I’m also on Voxer and Google+

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his is not intended to guilt anyone into calling me or whatever. I’m just going to be living my life without Facebook… See you around!

 


 

I was almost convinced to stay when I read this little piece… But alas, I have kept to my principles (or whatever it is I’m keeping to here.) and I am just ready to let it go (cue singing).

I kept my FB page, only to continue to use it for my work,¬†(the school FB page is visited fairly regularly) but I’m not planning on posting anything there or taking a bunch of time to check it. I cut my friends list to about 60. These 60 all remain for reasons¬†related to the difficulty in getting information off Facebook. The link preserves notes, tags, messages, contact info or whatever that I want to be sure to extract before terminating the link. If we are friends and you got your feelings hurt because I “unfriended” you, there are two things I want you to consider. First, I probably already have your mailing address, phone number, e-mail or other pertinent contact info in my contacts database so you are and always have been a REAL friend, don’t sweat it. Second, really consider our friendship, does it depend on a digital pseudo world to exist? Anyone who has been on my Facebook friends list is probably a friend regardless of Facebook. if you feel slighted, I’m not apologizing because Facebook isn’t real. If you think it is, you might consider dumping it as well (and perhaps get some counseling).

So, this site is my new online home. (What better way to force myself to blog?) and I’ll be getting myself organized and focused here. Hope you will follow along and feel free to interact. I’ll post commenting norms and stuff. Basically the rule here is Be Nice. If you want to be a jerk, get your own blog and do it there.

Cheers!